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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does it really matter? You dodged a bullet. He cheated. You cheated. You both have the morals of alley cats and you are worried about feeling insecure? Bring it up with a therapist and report back. [/quote]

Sanctimonious. "making a show of being morally superior to other people."[/quote]

I wasn't being sanctimonious (because I don't have any interest in comparing myself to random strangers or anyone really).

Rather, I was pointing out (how bizarre it is) that she is concerned with feeling insecure rather than her poor decision making. I think she needed to reevaluate her priorities, and a therapist is likely needed (since she seems incapable of figuring this out on her own).

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Eliminate this "You both have the morals of alley cats and you are worried about feeling insecure? " and your rebuttal works. Shots like that are meant to demean while you float above in a morally superior position.[/quote]

Wrong, pp. That statement is perfectly legit. Sometimes the truth hurts. But the truth is that having an affair is a big statement about your moral code...regardless of how common affairs seem to be in DCUMLandia. If an affair didn't say something about your character, then Bill Clinton's character would not have been called into question. [/quote]

I stand by my statement..[b].Shots like that are meant to demean while you float above in a morally superior position.[/b] There is truth and there are statements meant to demean and elevate yourself.[/quote]

I have no need to elevate myself...because I would never have an affair. Affairs are wrong. Period. You can continue to call me sanctimonious if you like. But as we've both pointed out, the sanctimonious person puts others down to feel better about themselves. I have no need to do that. A person who has an affair on the other hand might feel the need to deflect. And you are deflecting by throwing rocks at me. That's fine. Continue if you must. Gentle suggestion: time might be better spent focusing on yourself. [/quote]

You can say affairs are wrong without the alley cat business. Not sure if you're unable to see that or simply unwilling. One's a rational statement. The other is aggressive. It's the aggression that causes you to lose ground when making an otherwise perfectly legitimate and accurate point. [/quote]

Well said.[/quote]

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