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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I work in this field so here are some steps for you to take tomorrow:
1. Ask for the social works at the rehab, tell them you want a family care plan meeting (that will include social work, nursing, and the PT/OT).The purpose of this meeting will be for the staff to give their opinions on placement options for your mother and for you to give them all the details as you have described here. If the social worker does not know the details already, inform them. If there is no SW, the director of rehab or director of nursing is your next step.
2. Make an appointment with an elder care attorney for a consultation where you will lay out everything about the situation, what you know about their assets, your mothers mental status, etc. Your mother may be incapacitated to the point of not being able to make her own decisions, but her husband still has rights as her husband, so this may get tricky regarding payment for care, etc. You need someone knowledgeable about this to help. Don't assume your mother can just drain their assets to pay for care, or you can force her husband to sell the house, before you make plans for her.
I wouldn't tell your stepfather anyone than he asks until you have the above professionals guiding this process.
As PP's have pointed out, your stepfather was unable, for whatever reasons, to care for your mother. Period. Moving him across country will not change that. You will end up with your mother in a nursing facility or assistive living and your step FIL in an apartment. She obviously requires more care than he can provide. Fighting that is futile IMO.
If your family was under my care, I would advise transitioning your mother first to her new environment and stabilizing her, then worrying about your step father. 
Would your sister agree to helping with stepfather since you are helping with mother?
If you have to throw money at her, can you do it? She may respond better now that you are clearly 100% in charge of your mother 
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