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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife is the low libido one. She'll often not feel like it when I try to initiate. She has ruled out morning sex pretty much permanently. She falls asleep on the couch at 9:30 many evenings. So, we routinely go 2-3 weeks without sex.

But, to make it worse, I have this passive aggressive side of me that - when we've gone a long time without sex - makes me want to extend the time we've gone without sex to, I don't know what - "show her," I guess. I don't want to have sex because I'm resentful about not having sex.

Then we'll have sex again, and it will be all good during that first week - when I'll try and usually fail to have sex again. The resentment resumes at weeks 2 and 3. Fucked up, I know. 
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If I may, let me show you your future...

She did exactly what you describe for the better part of 15 years. Needless to say, that did not meet my needs, so self-satisfaction became the outlet. Though fantasized, I could not cheat. Over time, I learned my lesson. It is now at the point where I simply no longer initiate, nor do I have any desire to do so. Quite the contrary.

While the personal connection achieved through sex is wonderful, the act itself is increasingly awkward and unsatisfying. Really, really unsatisfying. Ironically, I find myself as I imagine she used to be - dreading the initiation and relieved when it is avoided or effectively ignored.

I love her and will be with no one else. But I have no interest, no desire for her any longer.[/quote]

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