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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Frankly, I would feel violated if a mother (or mother figure) even asked me if I wanted them in the room!

She's having sex, OP. I think she can handle a speculum. [/quote]

Maybe you're not as close with your mother as my daughter is with me. I've worked really hard to cultivate a relationship with her where she could view me as a part of her support system. [/quote]

Actually, I am incredibly close with my mother. But I am also very private about my body, and once I was comfortable enough to have sex I was comfortable enough to visit a gynecologist alone (partly because my mother helped me take mature steps one at a time). [b]I just fail to see why a sexual, young adult (almost) WOMAN would be so broken up about an annual exam that she'd need company. I think that is unusual. [/b][/quote]

12:40 here. In my case you're absolutely correct that it was a highly unusual set of circumstances. I was young (15), not yet sexually active at all by consensual choice and terribly embarrassed of just the idea of such acts, the victim of a very violent sexual assault in my childhood (hence the wording on the sexually active statement), and physically disabled to the extent that I could not physically accomplish the standard exam and modifications had to be made (I knew this would be the case going into the appointment, it wasn't a surprise).

My doctor was a female, who behaved perfectly ethically throughout the entire exam (as I rationally knew to expect), and thus was certainly no threat to me... but yes I was absolutely terrified and would have benefited from the presence of a third party for support and a feeling of safety. Note that I am in no way accusing the doctor of any impropriety, but I (unjustly, irrationally, but hey I was 15 and not the wisest kid) very much feared she would do something like that and that negatively impacted my entire appointment.

I vote ask DSD if she wants anyone there with her, and then make a genuine effort to get that person there if she asks for anyone.[/quote]

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