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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rather than go through the minutiae of your schedule, you might just say more generally that you're booked the next few weekends/evenings/what have you.  It sounds like your parents and ILs might be looking for reassurance that they're important and will see you regularly--so listing all your activities just tells them more of the "you're not important" rather than what they want to know, which is when they'll see you next.

Two things:

1) Be proactive.  If you know you have a busy time coming up, tell your parents and ILs and get something on the calendar with them, even if it's for aways off.

2) Short responses.  Do they text?  "Hey, saw your email, all's well here, more later love you!"  And does your DH at least deal with his own parents, or are you the social manager for everyone?  That could take half the task off your plate right there.[/quote]

So I can see myself complaining like the OP about my inlaws.  But this first solution is good.  I don't really WANT to do that bc my MIL irritates me so much, but it is most likely the best way to ease some tension.  I am trying to take the higher road here, but god she makes it hard.  My DH is pretty good at handling them, but really I run most of our calendar so I should probably just get better about asking her directly.  Currently I can usually see schedule issues a mile away and I just don't say anything to my DH, even though I should.[/quote]

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