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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, to answer your question, I would have one conversation with them about it. Keep calm, don't engage if they get excited. Everyone deserves at least one explanation! They should get one. They will probably think you're nuts (like I do) but at least you won't have anything to reproach yourself with since you'll have done your best.[/quote]

OK seriously, on what basis do you think I am nuts? Did you even bother to look into the basics of DOR before saying that?[/quote]

Because I've been around the block a few times, and anytime someone has to label a parenting philosophy, it usually turns out to be a trend that peters out. Being a research scientist, I appreciate your claim that this approach is evidence-based and has research behind it. And no, I don't have time right now to analyze the merits of this research. I totally understand how attractive new parenting philosophies are, particularly the ones at the opposite spectrum of how you were raised yourself - notice there is a need for self-analysis there. 
I preach moderation in all things. I was smothered by a mother who was neglected by her parents, and have observed that most parenting mistakes stem from gut reactions of parents who wish to avoid the mistakes their own parents make. Moderation will skirt those pitfalls. No need for fancy labels, just use your common sense.

And yes, you did need to point out you wanted your kids to have an all-access relationship with your parents (two weeks without you!), despite the food issue. Often, relationship problems cannot be limited to one category, and conflicts pop up all over the place. This will happen for sure if your children are used to greater flexibility than what they might encounter at your parents'.

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