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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was hoping to hear more from people who are sharing in this experience rather than a bunch of posters criticizing whether or not the label or accurate or appropriate. Especially, since those criticizing don't seem like they read this book and/or have a narcissistic mother themselves. You don't know my mother or my experience so please stop dismissing myself and others.

To the PP who have responded with similar experiences, it sounds like all of you have ultimately cut ties with your mother. How does that affect your relationship with your other family members?
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Mother from Europe, father from Middle East. She had money he did not. She could do no wrong. I was 3 months old when she left to study in England. Life was good for me when she was not around. She would come in the summers and stay for a month or so. I remember her saying "what have you done to her". she looks so fat. I was not thin but definitely not fat, at least not then.
Fast forward, when I brought my report card with 20/20 in almost every subject, it's because the school was not challenging enough.
When I won international piano competitions, it's because my teacher was part of the jury.
During one of my concerts, she took the hot iron and ruined (burned) my shirt which was rubbery.  When I got mad at her, she cried, called my dad who yelled at me for making her upset.

when she came to the USA, she claimed she had 2 children ...  I was 13 then and could have gotten my green card when she got hers (through her job). People were surprised as they did not know she had a daughter.
Once after one of my concerts a lady came to me and told me that years ago, she and her son had attended one of my concerts in my country. Her son had been interested in meeting me. I was 19 then. My mother had told the son and the mom that he looked like a really nice young man and that he deserved to be with a girl who would be a proper housewife, not someone like me.
Of course she introduced me to my husband (trying to divorce) who is self absorbed, lazy and quite abusive.
As my child gets older he will decide with whom to live. 
My mother told me that no one divorces in our family and that if I do, she will testify against me saying I was mentally unstable.
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