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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS17- safe driving, college visits, peers who drink and smoke weed, sexually active?

DD14- very moody, currently in an angry phase and non-verbal with me for days at a time.
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The fact that you indicate PEERS who drink, smoke weed, and are sexually active indicates that you are more than a little blind.  Not mine says PP[/quote]

quoted PP- that's entirely possible.  However, we have very active, regular conversations with our son, daughter, and son's gf about drinking and drug use.  One of my son's best friends growing up has been going to bars with his parents since 14.  Son went to a football camp last summer, carpooled with 3 other kids, on the way home, they stopped at a restaurant, got soft drinks, and 2 passengers poured vodka into the cups.  In 8th grade, a peer (whom I coached at the time) was expelled for selling pot.  He's in Florida now but posts pictures on Instagram.  (and for him to be selling pot- there had to be kids buying pot, amirite?)  My son said he knows 3 kids taking steroids.  So while these are PEERS, they're not friends.  I mean, he hangs with some of them at school and he's in sports with several- but we live in a very small town so its impossible for him to avoid these kids entirely, not with a graduating class of 60.  But he also doesn't go on "ice fishing" trips with them which consists of sitting around and drinking beer all day.

As far as sexually active- he and his girlfriend have been dating seriously for a while.  We've talked about sex, I've told him where to buy condoms.  He has a car, they go on dates, and she has limited parental involvement- she's at our house quite a bit.  In fact, her older sister got pregnant at 17.  But she has NO interest in kids, the amount of time babysitting her sister's kids has acted as a bit of birth control.  But we do have fairly explicit conversations with our son and his girlfriend.

Now, I know- they may be completely bullshitting us.  But I think we have very open communication with our daughter, son, and his girlfriend.  The kids they identify as friends don't drink or use drugs.  But in a small town, you can't avoid interacting with the kids who do.  That's what makes it so complicated.  [/quote]

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