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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes it is Arkansas. Do share...

He makes 50k. Almost all his salary goes to loan repayment. We do not share finances other than filing our tax together. I pay for most of the expenses--rent, medical bills, grocery, etc. He pays for cellphone and gas and helps out with grocery runs too. I think I am already helping him pay for his loans by assuming the other big expenses. If he were to be a SAHD, of course I will pay his monthly till he finds a job. [/quote]

Well, actually I was probably being too harsh. Little Rock is not that bad, Hot Springs and Eureka Springs are pretty little towns (actually a lot of the state is pretty, with the Ozark Mountains, etc.), Fayetteville's got the university so it's not terrible. I shouldn't speak so poorly of Arkansas as it is the land of my ancestors:). It's just very...different than D.C. (but I'm sure you already know that). Pace of life is a lot slower, there's not going to be a ton of stuff to do, the schools won't be as good, you will probably encounter more backwards/racist/ignorant ways of thinking but that is highly variable and can be found anywhere you live, even in D.C. area, to be honest.

So it's not the most terrible place in the world. But if you like D.C. or the East Coast in general, moving to Arkansas will be quite a culture shock.

I see how you guys divvy up your $$. Just different than what my husband and I do...we share everything and there is no 'you pay for this, I pay for that' in our relationship but everyone is different and that works for you (right?) He does have a LOT of $$ in loans so I'm sure part of his hesitation in moving without a job is just feeling some anxiety about all his debt, which makes sense. But it might make better financial sense if he just moved w/ you so you're not paying rent/mortgage in 2 places. Cost of living is so much lower in Arkansas!  GOod luck whatever you decide to do[/quote]

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