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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you know anything that is flattering about her?  Does she like kids?  Is she kind to dogs?

I guess I would tell myself, SHE is the one stuck with the jerk, and YOU get free babysitting!  Yay!

Read the Sandcastles book on how to help children with divorce.  No matter what, never say anything negative about the ex and the new wife.  Remember it's not a competition for your child's love.  Your job is to raise your child to a healthy adult, not to win a popularity contest.

- child of cheating divorce, also my ex cheated and left me with two kids.[/quote]

Yeah, I try to tell myself it could be worse, because she will be nice to my child, and it's not like she's some druggy partier.  I know she's nice to kids because she was defacto stepmom in her last relationship and lived with the kids for several years (rent free, did not contribute financially to the household), but now has minimal contact after cheating in that relationship to get with my ex.  So the good is that she will be decent to my child, and the bad is that my child will get attached to her and then it's pretty likely that she will move on to someone new.  My therapist keeps reminding me that my daughter has strong relationships with both her parents, and if a relationship with a secondary person in her life ends, that sucks, but it's not the end of the world.  I know you are totally right about not going negative, every adult child of divorce I've talked to has said that they most stressful part of the divorce was having to deal with parents who were super negative/needy/dysfunctional.  I will not be that person![/quote]

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