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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since you are all so brutally honest  -

ILs have always come up with excuses not to visit. They can't board the dog. They need a quiet weekend at home. The drive is long. The drive is expensive. They need a weekend to go shopping. The list goes on and on. They are part time retired, so their time should be fairly flexible and have friends and family nearby who are happy to watch the dog. We drive up very often for birthdays, holidays, just because...

We live in a townhouse with small kids and no guestroom. So we bought a mattress (a real one, not an air mattress) to use in the living room with guests. There's a bathroom and tv there and we go to bed early while they are  night owls, so there's really no conflict in space.  The latest excuse for not visiting? "We're too old to sleep on a mattress on the floor". They pride themselves in being "too young to be grandparents"(they're in their 60s and have no physical ailments).

So DCUM - am I now supposed to offer them my bedroom in order to encourage visits? I've never been offered a host's bedroom, and it seems odd to me to do so. Am I a bitch if I don't? [b]I'm a private person and a bit protective of my space so I'm uncomfortable with that.[/b] Besides the fact that our bedroom has no tv and they "can't" sleep without one. And since we like to go to bed earlier than them (before 10) it doesn't logistically work well to switch.[/quote]

Perhaps your in-laws feel the same.[/quote]

I'm not much into "respecting your elders" but parents/inlaws and grandparents deserve a bedroom. I give mine up for them. I don't give my friends or siblings my bedroom when they visit though. [/quote]

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