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[quote=Anonymous]Speaking as a homesick Californian, your concern is justified.  People stay because it's wonderful.  The weather, the more laid-back culture, the stunning coastline.

But you won't be "losing" your daughter if she chooses this.  My decision to move to the East Coast at 18 wasn't a rejection of my parents.  It was what I needed to do to establish myself on the path I chose to travel in life.  My parents are bitter about my decision even now, after all these years, and it hurts.  I would welcome them to visit more often, but they choose not to and say that if I wanted to see them more than once a year, I shouldn't have moved out east.  They complain about the infrequency of my visits, but don't offer to help with the out-of-reach-for-us costs of plane tickets for four people plus hotel and car rental (my parents don't allow us to stay in their house because they value their quiet time).

Anyway, I'll stop going off about my experience.  The only reason I shared it is to say, don't be like my parents.  Let your kids make their decisions, then react in a way that will make you happiest.  If that means moving out West to be closer, do it.  If you'd rather stay here, then thank God we live in a world of Skype and plane travel, and make the best of it.  But whatever you do, don't be bitter and don't lay guilt trips.  It would hurt your daughter badly, and I'm guessing she's a great girl.[/quote]

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