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[quote=Anonymous]I share almost nothing with my parents.  Growing up, we were not close because they were focused on my sister, who had major issues.  Because I was the "normal" one, they didn't really pay any attention to me and left me to my own devices.  When I left home at 18, they believed it was the child's responsibility to keep in touch.  They also really never got to know me because they never asked me about my life or did anything with me.  I speak to my dad maybe once a month and I have dinner with my mom once a month (they are married still but do their own thing a lot of the time).  I don't really talk about anything deep or interesting and we tend to just talk about my sister a lot.  They have no idea that I went through years of miscarriages and infertility, or the sheer hell of my previous job, or that my husband and I went to marriage counseling.

My husband talks to his dad a couple of times a year.  FIL is another one who thinks it's the child's responsibility to keep in touch.  My husband talks to his mom weekly, if not more.  He shares big things with her (like getting a promotion, new job, etc.), but doesn't tell her negative things because she gets very emotional and takes things quite personally - like she's overly empathetic.  I talk to her at least once a month on the phone, and we are Facebook friends and comment on each others' statuses and email each other pretty regularly.  She's a nice woman, but her super emotional behavior is pretty foreign to me.

In light of my situation, I am actively trying to figure out how to create a lasting, loving relationship with my kids so that we remain in touch and in each others' lives once they leave home.  It would kill me for them to not want to talk to me at all or think of me as not caring.[/quote]

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