Reply to Dedicated SN mom or Helicopter mom

Forum Index » Kids With Special Needs and Disabilities

Reply to "Dedicated SN mom or Helicopter mom"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]PP, I'm sorry if you have found this board less than helpful but I have personally found everyone to be very supportive and reasonable. I do work full time but over the past year I have had to devote huge amounts of time to DC with special needs to the point where, yes, it has become all-consuming emotionally and financially. It is exhausting and hardly by choice. I would give anything in the world to not be in this situation. I think most of the people on this forum have had similar experiences.

There are mothers with children who are age 3 who suddenly regress and become non-verbal and they find out their child has ASD and those whose children suddenly start to fail classes due to ADHD not to mention the ones who are parents of children with other special needs that require constant 1:1 attention. Imagine having to feed and help your child go to the bathroom even when they are adults. This is the life some parents on this board are facing.

I am grateful that many of these parents can find the time to come on this board and offer their wisdom to others.. like me!... who are less experienced and I think your comments are incredibly unfair and cruel.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to piss you all off with this response, but I spend a bit of time on this forum and generally avoid the SN page because I find you all so over-involved in your kids that it becomes unhelpful. I have asked a few questions on this forum, and the results are from people looking to find "special needs" everywhere. I wonder how many of you have full time jobs, or if this has become your full time job not out of necessity to your kids but because it provides meaning and purpose to your lives.  Of course some of our SN kids need extra attention than some other kids, but i am a bit shocked at how all-consuming parenting is for some of you. I wonder what some of you are so scared of happening if you didn't dedicate this much of yourselves to them? And at least in our case, we have found that over-helping our kids can be detrimental (for instance, going to therapies and evals is exhausting and stressful - i think the benefits are often outweighed by teh stress). For the person with the 20 year old in college where she still needs to helicopter: at a point, shouldn't you be figuring out a work-around to the fact that your kid can't finish papers? What's he going to do in 2 years when he gets a job?  Maybe he should have majored in math instead, so he doesn't need to write papers?  Maybe he just needs to fail a year of college and end up in community college? Point is (and sorry to pick on that person, but the example really jumped out): when does it end? And if it is never going to end, then why make it a full-time life starting at age 3? [/quote]
[/quote]
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics