Reply to In shock - he cheated

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "In shock - he cheated"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would leave. You're not at fault here OP. Your husband perpetrated a fraud. Think of it this way: if you found out he had cheated before you got married, would you have walked down the aisle? You're in your 30s which leaves you just enough time to get divorced/annulled and find someone worthy of you and worthy of starting a family.Thank your lucky stars you didn't have a kid with this one. Walk away with your head held high.[/quote]

I disagree.

If you read closely, they were still in a long-distance relationship when they got engaged, which is unusual (not necessarily wrong, just unusual).

I think that, even though he said he was committed, he really wasn't until after you were physically with him. It was wrong for him to say one thing and then do something else, but I don't think that this is quite the same as if he cheated after they were married, or at least together. It's still cheating -- don't get me wrong. And you have every right to be questioning him. But, as another poster mentioned, he says he knocked it off after they were "really" together. Now he is trying to have a baby with the OP. I think there is reason to believe that he is in a different place now.

I question the other woman's motives, especially if she knows that all of this took place before you were physically together. What would motivate her to "ratting him out" under those circumstances? I think OP may be giving her too much credit.

I wouldn't recommend starting over at this point, if he is otherwise good. There will be a million people here blithely telling OP to kick him to the curb, but it's easy to say that to an anonymous person on an anonymous message board when you have no skin in the game.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics