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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Am I the only one who has experienced this phenomenon? The more meetings you have over an (unresolved) issue, the more and more people from school admin (who have never met your child) feel the need to show up and put their 2 cents' worth in? I have been to meetings where it is just me and 20 people from FCPS. I think they bring in people professionally trained on negotiation techniques, not just special ed per se, but just to try to manipulate you. DH thinks I'm getting crazy and paranoid.

Ohhhh yes. What you won't sign you say?????? *ominous music plays in the background* You are going to have to come back for meeting you know, lots of meetings..and there will be more of us! They even drop names and titles of people they will invite. Better sign crazy mom because we all also send emails where 25 people are CCed with all sorts of fancy titles. I then respond CCing all their people, and my peeps....our developmental pediatrician, outside evaluators, the advocate we consult with and Barack Obama (no, just thought it would be funny. Oh yeah...well the president is going to read this. BOOM!") I am considering adding our school board rep to the mix the next time they pull this.

My requests are more than reasonable and well supported by the reports I provide. I consult with multiple experts. You may give me aggravation and aches and pains, but you will not intimidate me.

Honestly, I am not trying to get major placement overhauls. We're talking about thing like increasing OT or something or I want pull-out and they want pull-in. Pull-in is complete bullshit when you have an inexperienced SN teacher who is overwhelmed. The squeaky kid gets the oil and the rest get ignored. 
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It's 9:10 again.  You're not crazy/paranoid.  I've actually been able to dissociate myself from me and admire the technique of the administrator.  I've actually learned a lot from them.  I'm not so good at putting it into practice at the IEP meetings but it's been a boon to my professional life.  :lol: I may not apply their negotiation tactics in the IEP meetings but they're also teaching me a lot of other things.  Once burned, twice shy.  You should see how we wordsmith the notes.  I hate those fucking meetings.  If they're in the morning, I have to take the whole day off work because I'm too drained afterwards.  I wish I could meet you guys for drinks after them. [/quote]

Crazy/paranoid poster here. I was reading DH this thread and he just reminded me of this one particularly contentious meeting a few years ago. (My DS is 10 and has had an IEP since 3 so...a lot of meetings). There was a social worker there with a "social work" intern. The intern sat next to me. She pulled out a yellow legal pad with "meeting itinerary" across the top. Number 1 on the list: Acknowledge parent's feelings of frustration with process. Number 2: Use "pivot" technique.

I still don't know what the pivot technique is but every once in awhile when DH and I are arguing one of us will shout out "Use the pivot technique, damn it!"[/quote]

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