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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents had practically no social life when I was growing up.  My dad has a lifelong best friend, my mom has a sister (who is really her best friend but lived 6 hrs away), my sister really just has her best friend from hs.  But my parents weren't social in the town I lived in, and I think that is certainly partially responsible for the fact that I have no good friends now, and have always struggled at holding onto friendships.

When you're a boy growing up with no older sibling and parents who aren't social, youre on your own.  And when you're academically advanced but a physical late bloomer like I was, it isn't easy.  I've been socially victimized and/or excluded by various people through high school, college, and law school.  By the time it got to law school, of course, it was less explicit and more passive/aggressive.

But the fact is I'm a normal, even relatively good-looking guy, with no true friends I can depend on outside of my family.  It's the main cause of my loneliness and anger, and I don't think I'll ever let go of these issues.  I have trouble dating women because eventually they want to know who your friends are, and (fairly) would be repelled if they knew I didn't have any. [b] I also have thoughts of harming those who have harmed me in the past, though I'm [i]probably[/i] too chicken to actually commit these acts because I wouldn't like prison very much.[/b]

So parents, try to give your kids social opportunities.  It's more important than anything else in their development in determining their happiness.[/quote]

You had me till the bolded part. Please seek therapy to process this. It's one thing to not have friends. It's another to have rage and no outlet. Work through this and know that it can get better.[/quote]

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