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[quote=Anonymous]My parents had practically no social life when I was growing up.  My dad has a lifelong best friend, my mom has a sister (who is really her best friend but lived 6 hrs away), my sister really just has her best friend from hs.  But my parents weren't social in the town I lived in, and I think that is certainly partially responsible for the fact that I have no good friends now, and have always struggled at holding onto friendships.

When you're a boy growing up with no older sibling and parents who aren't social, youre on your own.  And when you're academically advanced but a physical late bloomer like I was, it isn't easy.  I've been socially victimized and/or excluded by various people through high school, college, and law school.  By the time it got to law school, of course, it was less explicit and more passive/aggressive.

But the fact is I'm a normal, even relatively good-looking guy, with no true friends I can depend on outside of my family.  It's the main cause of my loneliness and anger, and I don't think I'll ever let go of these issues.  I have trouble dating women because eventually they want to know who your friends are, and (fairly) would be repelled if they knew I didn't have any.  I also have thoughts of harming those who have harmed me in the past, though I'm probably too chicken to actually commit these acts because I wouldn't like prison very much.

So parents, try to give your kids social opportunities.  It's more important than anything else in their development in determining their happiness.[/quote]

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