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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. He is not responsible for my feelings. I will focus on his behavior, and tell him when things are not okay or not acceptable, but I'm not going to make a child responsible for an adult's feelings. [/quote] I don't view it as making them responsible for your feelings. Instead, I think it is important for you to model productive behavior for them. So if their feelings are hurt, would you want them to or expect them to pretend that they aren't? And say something about how that's not a kind thing to say while masking how you really feel? Maybe you do, but having been raised like that, I don't think that's a healthy way to treat other people. Instead I acknowledge when someone has done something that is hurtful to me (including my children) and model how to handle it -- i.e., talking about feelings, working things out and practicing how to communicate without being hurtful. [/quote]
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