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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was you. My oldest son was a soccer goalie all through school until age 16. I suffered so to see him in goal -- worried constantly he'd lose the shot and was devastated when it happened. At first my son was devastated, but over the years he become more resilient about it. On the other hand, it never got easier for me.

It's the same with me and all my kids' disappointments. I literally have to restrain myself from feeling every problem they go through as if it's happening to me. My husband jokes that I have too much empathy! It's that, but also that I project a lot onto my kids and make it too much about me. I've been to therapy about it and have learned to walk the line between caring too much and being detached. It's gotten better.

I have a mantra I say to myself, it goes something like this: "This isn't about me, and my job is just to help them be their best in life. It will all work out and I have my own life too." It may sound cheesy but it helps me step back and calm down.[/quote]

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