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OP, you are smart to cut such toxicity out of your life.  MILs don't have an obligation to "like" DILs, but they do have an obligation to be "nice".  Isn't that what we tell our young children?  Don't MILs have parents to teach them the basics in life?

I can't imagine having someone 'new' in the family, and not being consistently warm and welcoming - especially if that person never, in actuality, did anything wrong.  I think a lot of MILs resent their young DILs for no real reason.  Pettiness is not a real reason.

If MILs want to be considered any kind of "matriarch" (vomit) in the family, they need to step it up and act in a graceful manner, consistently (not just for appearances). After all, MILs are *supposed to be* older and wiser.  They need to behave accordingly.

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So true.  Maybe they'll be a whole influx of nice MIL's when our own kids get married, since we all know how it feels to be treated like crap.  We could start an entire movement that makes mean MIL's seem rare.  AHHHHH.

I seriously can't imagine being anything BUT welcoming to a new member of my family.  I have a cousin in his mid-late 20's who is getting married soon, and we have embraced this young lady and treated her with nothing but kindness and respect.  I can't imagine doing anything else. 
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+1000
Because you were raised in a kind and decent home.  MIL is from a home where hostility breeds hostility, literally.  It is sad to watch, because MIL just gets worse and worse in her old age.  Others are figuring out that she is indeed a wolf in sheeps clothing.

We have a great example of what NOT to do!

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