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[quote=Anonymous]OP- You sound like a great mom.  My DD behaves similarly in that she latches on to a BFF.  I don't think your situation is unique.  I actually was talking to another mom this morning too who has a DD in my daughter's grade and she said that her daughter does the same thing.  However, I think what makes your DD's situation more unique is that she gravitates to the most popular child and gets jealous too easily.

Do you stress popularity in your household?  If you are worried so much about her socially could she interpret your desires as that she needs to improve her social standing?  Being BFF's with a child of high social standing would increase hers.  In your DD's situation, that higher social standing is short lived as she eventually becomes the outcast.  Of course this makes her doubt herself more and she's probably more easily manipulated the next time due to the "fall".

If I were you, I would focus on helping her determine what characteristics that she needs to look for in friends.  I wouldn't force her into trying to be a part of a large group of "friends" as that's not her style but encourage her to invite different friends over.  Probably easier if one is soccer and another is from church (eg).  If she has different friends from different groups, maybe she'll develop the confidence that she needs so that she doesn't become too dependent on one.

When you start to see things become unhealthy like looking at Instagram 25 times in a day, take away her phone etc and have her invite another friend over to do something fun.

I know what I've written is overly simplistic.  I think the fact that she has some awareness of what she does is a good thing.  One day she'll realize the emotional drain isn't worth that temporary high.

I also tell my DD that [/quote]

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