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[quote=Anonymous][quote]She has just always wanted that one best friend, and I get that.[/quote]

Yeah. I was totally jealous of the girls who had those photos all over their rooms -- groups of girls with arms around each other after soccer games, at the prom, on a trip.  I wasn't an outcast or anything, but I craved a type of intimacy with female friends that I didn't really find until after college.  For some people, they never find their "clique." That doesn't mean they don't find their people, but those people just might not look like you expect them to.

One PP suggested that you watch Mean Girls together. Your daughter sounds a little like Gretchen -- the "second in command," kind of.  She wants to be besties with the Regina of the group, not quite realizing that being the "BFF of" someone isn't an identity of itself.

I'd recommend getting/asking her to think about diversifying her activities and "shopping" for her people from a large variety of options. If her "person" ends up being the Queen of the Plastics again, intervene early.

But, really, this sounds pretty normal to me.  High school and middle school girls can be mean as &$^#. Some of the most popular HS seniors I've seen had similar moments in their social development. 
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