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[quote=Anonymous]It is rec soccer.  I was wondering during the practice if he had a kid on the team b/c it didn't appear that he was calling any of the boys by name, so I couldn't tell.  DH said that one of the boys was identified as his son at the end.  Based on what I saw, I thought he might just be some guy who didn't have kids and wanted to coach soccer.  Usually volunteer coaches are dads/moms who by definition have some understanding of kids and the importance of having fun in rec soccer.

I do think it is valuable to think of it like a teacher --

if a teacher physically stripped clothing off a child (invading personal boundaries); or

asked them to do a math problem (without telling them how to do it) and then separated them into groups who do it right on one side of the class and groups who do it wrong on the other (shaming); and

then told your kids "I'm the bossman!  When you are here with me, your parents don't exist!" (demanding control instead of earning respect)

--- it would raise eyebrows.

He is a volunteer -- so I do have some sense of beggars can't be choosers and I am typically grateful to anyone who steps up to coach -- it is a lot of work.  We'll keep an eye on him during practices/games +  See how the boys react to him.  DH said coach's final comments were that he's all about discipline and boys this age need discipline, etc.   That is true, but IME coaches generally do that with an equal dose of fun/kindness.

I don't trust him -- I've never said that about a coach and I've been through 6 seasons of rec soccer before this.

And no -- it's not "after care" for anyone.  It doesn't start after school and the kids come from different schools.

I hope he does warm up, but I can also see my son (and others) wanting to quit if the coach continues in this manner.  Inevitably my son will screw up a play or be inattentive or goofy... he's 8... that's what he does... and then getting yelled at for it.  My kid isn't in rec soccer to get demeaned.  It doesn't matter if they lose every game... he's here to have fun and get exercise.[/quote]

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