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[quote=Anonymous]"I can't take the week off, neither can my husband."
OP, what's the full situation? Why does this visit have to be an entire week? Is there a week your child is off school but you and dad can't stay home with him or her, so dad sees it as an opportunity for a visit to grandma? I'm not clear on why it's a week and why your husband is fine with a child this young going anywhere -- leave out the drug addict brother, I mean anywhere at all with anyone -- for a solid week, without mom or dad. Is the trip so distant that a week is the shortest time one can really go? If that's the case, it's already too far to send a kid alone. Is this all about grandma? If your child is not used to staying with grandma, a whole week is going to be eternal, and even the best behaved kid is going to act out at the worst, and get bored and maybe whiny at best. How long since grandma was around kids this age? Does she have specific things planned they could do? Is she in good health and does she have the energy for this? Is uncle's sobriety a possible distraction to grandma, if she feels she has to watch both him and grandchild to some extent? And so on.

Sounds very badly thought out, or rather not thought out at all, by dad. Like I said -- you can even take the drug addict uncle out of the picture and it still sounds like a recipe for a bored or homesick kindergartener and a frustrated, ready-to-be-done grandma halfway into the week. Even if grandma is a champ with kids this age, it's much more usual to have kids do overnights gradually, unless they've been spending nights at grandma's since they were very, very small and are used to it. I do not get the impression that's the case here but that grandma's pretty far away.

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