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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much of a free hand do you have to decorate your house the way you want?  My H had an opinion on everything, and I never felt really free to do what I wanted with furniture, rugs, even trash cans.  Yes, he had an opinion on trash cans.

H and I are now separated, and it feels *great* finally to be able to move things around the way I want to.  I wondered if other people are allowed to decorate their homes however they want (within reason), or whether you have to clear everything with a spouse?  The reason I am asking is because we are talking about reconciling, and I am trying to decide if I care about keeping this freedom.  It's one small point in a very complicated mix of bigger issues, so please don't think this is the deciding factor.  I was just curious what goes on in other people's houses![/quote]

OP, I need more information. How involved is your husband in the decorating and purchasing? If he expects you to go out and take care of things, but then sits back and shoots down every item you bring in, that's a huge problem. If the trash is piling up because there's no trash can in the kitchen, and HE is doing nothing about it, then he doesn't get to criticize the choice you make for a trash can if you go get one.

Now if everything is fine--you have a rug on the floor and dishes in the cabinet and a trash can in the kitchen--and you simply go out and purchase new versions of these items on your own,  then yes, he gets a say. He does live there and has an opinion. Some spouses could care less, and others want to weigh in.

Which situation is more like what's going on in your house--the first scenario or the second scenario? [/quote]

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