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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, given your follow up post, I  think you should let this go and say good riddance.
Originally, I was going to say that I know sometimes mothers feel like daughters are more likely to keep it in the family.  My mom had bad experiences with daughter in laws who divorced and took family heirloom with them (and I know other families that had the same problem, including someone who can't get back her grandmother's jewelry from her ex-stepmom).  
If there are specific things that your husband or kids would want, they should say something to MIL -- like "I always loved grandpa's watch collection.  I would really love to have one as a memory of grandpa."  If your kids have a good relationship, they can ask directly.  But once you say that the relationship is/was abusive, I say let it all go.  It won't bring happy memories anyway.[/quote]

OP I agree with bringing it up. DH is very hesitant to ask his parents for anything. He is in the military and always dreamed about hanging his grandpa's WWII uniform on his office wall. He was ready to cry when his mom donated it because "no one wanted it." Even after that, he still can't bring up stuff, so I do. [b]When they ask what DH wants for Christmas/birthday, I tell them how he wants his grandpa's medals of honor and such. [/b]

It's just a different relationship than in my family. My sister and I openly talk about what's going to be ours when our parents are gone and what has the most meaning. [/quote]

Brilliant!  [/quote]

This is pp. Their response was it wouldn't be a "real present" (they're kind people, I'm not knocking my in laws). But they wrapped it up and put these things under the tree. DH was in love. [/quote]

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