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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe she figures her daughter will treasure the family heirlooms more than her son.[/quote]

OP here.  I agree with your statement, but it is obvious that is not the case.  MIL favors her daughter (one more than the other), but the family has always been abusive to this son.  He has done well because of (in spite of?) their abuse. Any favoritism has backfired (enabled the daughter/SIL), and so has any abuse (propelled this son).  I suppose MIL does not see what effect she has.  DH is afraid to approach them, due to abuse issues.  Obviously, I would like to help him.  MIL has other issues, so I do not interact with her too much.  [/quote]

Given this background, I would encourage your DH to reframe this whole issue. Your MIL's pattern of giving your DH crap and your SIL heirlooms is simply a continuation of the abuse, and will not change. Any attempt to raise this with your MIL is likely to just heighten the abuse, because abusers really hate being called out on it. While I can understand how hurtful it is to not be able to share in treasured heirlooms, hopefully in time your DH can come to see the bigger picture, that in the end he is the winner in this, because he is the one who has become strong and successful as a result of the abusive dynamic, whereas his sister has become stunted.[/quote]

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