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[quote=Anonymous]I'm going to argue for the minority here.

No abuse actually happened. Intent is unclear, and dependent on a lot of family factors and history that OP isn't sharing with us. Even the kiss part, if it happened, is only strange if it was an unusual occurrence. My father regularly kissed me as a teen, and while it was embarrassing on occasion, it was 100% fatherly. In the case of my best friend, those identical kisses from her father were absolutely abuse.

Daughter doesn't want to see grandfather. OP hasn't given context as to what she said, or how many times she has said it. One of my daughters is visibly uncomfortable around her grandfather. Won't sit near him. Won't hug him. Doesn't want to see him. I am 100% certain there is no abuse--she just doesn't like him and he's not a warm, fuzzy person.

OP is unwilling to even have a discussion with her family about this. Again, if there was a long history of abuse, it would be understandable. A single occurrence of a father's arm on her waist, never repeated nor attempted to be repeated? Maybe an attempt, but maybe not. OP and therapists aren't even sure how to feel about it. But OP would rather cut off all ties with her dad instead of having an awkward conversation?

Given these facts, I think OP is over reacting. But it sounds like there is also a lot of family history the OP might be leaving out.

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