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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did this for a while because my wife refuses to move out of a Rust Belt hellhole with little opportunity because she is attached to her mother.  Will do this again once youngest leaves for college.  As you can tell, not planning to stay in this marriage.  In 15 months comes the big payback.[/quote]

Throwing you my support. DW refused to move for opportunities when we were young. Now as we have aged and our opportunities are less, she says where are all the opportunities. Honey, I told you that we should move to a part of the country with organic growth, preferably with a lower cost of living. You refused to discuss because of your (controlling) mother. Now that we made our bed we have to do the best we can. Then I get told I never took her to visit, etc. Outright refused fantastic opportunities and refuses to admit she should have stood up to her Mother. And this is from a women who doesn't want to work. After 20 plus years I don't have alot if sympathy. [/quote]

NP here who is a wife. I'm sad that both your wives acted this way. Marriage is a commitment between a man and a woman, not a man and a woman and a MIL. She should have deferred to you, but you quickly found her true loyalty wasn't to you.[/quote]

PP here. Thanks for your note. As my mother used to say youth is wasted on the young. I should have handled differently. We met young and while we were dating I told DW that I wanted to leave the area and that her Mom was welcome to come with us. I never had a clear conversation with my MIL before marriage and I should have. Once we were married that became we can't leave - what about my mother ? Also impacted any housing de isions - where's my Mothers room ?

hard to divorce once I knew the dynamic as I felt that would have robbed my wife of any chance to be a Mom; I really did not want to hurt her. She was somewhat between a rock and a hard place. In hindsight I should have had a come to Jesus with both of them. So, sad thing is has hurt my desire to grow old with my wife. She also has a brother on disability and I suspect that will be the next "what about my brother?" dynamic as we age but while I try to live up to my vows I'm done. Time to be selfish - which I learned from them.[/quote]

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