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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She has a job, but had made less than $5K per year for the last few years. She insists that's she's looking for another job, but hasn't found one in 2 years. Her house was foreclosed on last year and she's been sleeping on my sister's couch. My mother is a hateful woman and my sister wants her out. She's 56 years old and physically capable of working.

I pulled a few favors and found her an efficiency. As a favor to me, my friends were willing to waive all deposits and even turn the utilities on in their name. My sister and I said we'd pay for 3 months rent, but she needed to find a way to pay her own rent after that. She refused that offer.

My sister and mom made a deal for my sister to take over payments of her place, so she could buy the house that she recently lost. They added my sister's name on the deed, but didn't change the loan. The value of the place dropped significantly and my mother owed much more than it was worth. My mother now insists that it is her place and she wants my sister and her family out. Her plan is to continue living there without paying until the bank takes that one back too. My sister has been paying the mortgage and making improvements on it for seven years.

We have no idea what to do with my mother. She insists she will be taking my sister to court over this fight. What really needs to happen is my mother needs to take some responsibility to take care of herself. She says we owe her because she raised us. It is amazingly difficult to help someone who feels like she is owed a life provided by someone else. My father took care of her long after they divorced. He died almost 2 years ago and it's been a train wreck ever since.

We have a brother, but he had been living with and supporting her for the last 2 years, with thousands in credit card debt to show for it. He's stepped back, and I can't blame him.

She's toxic and hateful, along with asking for the world. We don't know what to do with her. [/quote]

Any chance your Mom's name can go back on the deed?  Yeah, it would suck for your sister to lose those 7 years, but in the end it might be priceless for your sister to be rid of that monkey on her back.  Your Mom seems to be determined to ruin her life in any way, shape or form.  Don't let her take you guys down with her[/quote]

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