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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can feel it. We used to talk every day and now she really doesn't even call me back. Not gonna lie. It hurts.

I know what the problem is but I don't know how it can be resolved. We've been friends for about 15 years and through the years we have made very different financial decisions. When she had her own apartment, I lived in a group house to save money. She always had a car whereas I walked or took the bus. We chose very different career paths too and now I make well in the six figures and she has been unemployed (laid off) for a year and struggling to find a job to pay her $60k a year.

My DH and I have been building a new, expensive home and, well, she is still living in the same apartment she had when I was in the group house, just now with her DH and DD.  She puts a LOT of weight on material things and is constantly shopping, buying, etc. and she tells me about all of her purchases. I really only shop for clothes a couple of times a year. I'm a GAP shopper and she's a Saks shopper.

She is a wonderful person. We've just made different life decisions and now it's coming home to roost. Her life is not at all what she expected and I know how disappointed and stressed she is. We had similar upbringings but just make different decisions.

Should I confront her? Should I just let the relationship drift away hoping her life circumstances will change?  I just don't know what to do and I'm just so sad.

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My BFF for years and years married a wonderful guy, has a beautiful house in Potomac, ended up as a SAHM, and I was jealous.  I wouldn't have told her, and I was happy for her, but I was jealous.  I married, ended up in a successful career, but one in which my husband decided I made too much money to be a SAHM.  I don't know if she had confronted me that it would have made the slightest difference.  She still had things in her life that I wanted, and I still love her.  there are times I get stressed, and I'm sure I get distant.  What's the point in confronting her?   you still have a great life, and she still has disappointments.  If you are a BFF, your friendship will go through close and more distant times.  Give it time.[/quote]

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