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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an adoptee, this thread makes me feel like a total commodity---nauseating.  Legalized human trafficking.[/quote]

I had no idea adoption would cost so much.[/quote]

If the question was "how much did your IVF baby cost?", the amounts in the responses would be similar.  Something to consider when the end result is essentially the same thing.[/quote]

Yup.  Or "how much did the ob/gyn cost?"  (obviously insurance covers most of those costs)
Our daughter was 3 when she came home.  Our adoption cost less than we would have spent to house and feed and care for her over those three years.

There are absolutely ethical concerns in adoption, and clearly there are some really shady people working in the industry.  But I do get frustrated when people feel adoption should be free.  Someone needs to be caring for the babies until they are placed for adoption, and someone needs to be paying the social workers who (ideally, at least) are ensuring that children are placed in safe and healthy homes.  Clearly, it should be the adoptive parents who pay the brunt of those costs.[/quote]

Way back when, Montgomery County used to have a placement program.  I think its a balance of who pays.  I don't mind paying reasonable costs, but there is nothing reasonable about costs today.  The facilitator we used, refused to work with gov't services (even though in the contract it said she would).  She offered us a situation with excessive food, housing and other costs for a family of five to live better than we would (with no explanation of how they would maintain it on little income once the adoption was completed).  We found that more often than not.  If there was no adoption, families would use resources such as food stamps, housing assistance, etc. and those should be used first (but it is easier to get the family to pay than bother applying which can take hours to days).

Since we did not have child care costs, our infant/toddler cost were minimal.  I would not include housing costs as we had an extra bedroom and had to heat the house anyway, regardless of her being here.  So, the only thing was clothing & formula. (we had good health insurance so even though we had high medical needs, those were minimal).[/quote]

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