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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks all.  When I say "rubbing off" I just mean that since we are not biologically related the issue of genetics and mental illness don't come into play.  So I think the fact that I've started to exhibit some of her same issues is a product of nurture.  Anyways, I'm able to reel it in so far but know it's not healthy, hence why I'm going to see a therapist.  My Mom has every excuse in the book as to why she won't see one and I've given up trying. She's been on anti anxiety meds in the past prescribed by her GP.  I think she's on the wrong med or wrong dose because they don't help.

I'm sure my therapist will help me work on ways to avoid these situations.  It just doesn't occur me to lie though. If she asks "did DH like DS' new haircut?" It doesn't occur to me to say "yes" vs "oh his flight doesn't get home until later so he won't see him until the morning"[/quote]

At least she's taking meds. My mother has bad anxiety-- has had it since I was a child-- and will never get help in any way shape or form. Everyone else has a problem, not her. Her mother had anxiety and rather than give it a mental disorder label, they'd just call it a chemical imbalance that she needed a prescription for. Lots of older people do not want to go down the therapy route because, you know, therapy is only for crazy people like Sybil. My mother justifies her behavior as a positive thing-- these days, her declaration is that her anxiety is a great benefit to all, a special resource, that keeps us all on our toes and out of harm's way because we're not as astute as she is. It will never end. This is now it's going to be for my family, forever.

All I can say is focus on yourself. Good for  you for seeking therapy. I did and it made a huge difference. Perhaps  you just have to let your mom hit rock bottom. Let her get anxious and land in the ER. Let her call the cops if you don't call her back immediately. She'll be fined a lot of money. In some families, when someone has a mental issue, rather than letting them hit rockbottom and have to get help, they walk around with a sort of broom right behind this person, cleaning up every mess they make rather than letting them see first hand the havoc they cause. [/quote]

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