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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. I'm a DE mom, with two kids now 6 and almost 9. I think, looking back, I would have shared less about all of my infertility struggles with various random people. I was so blindsided by the whole infertility diagnoses and all the choices and decisions that I talked A LOT about it to anyone who would listen. I found people to be generally ignorant, sometimes judgmental, and occasionally cruel. As time went on, I became much more choosy about who I told and how much I shared. We have and continue to share with our children quite openly how they were conceived, although they are only marginally interested at this point. We do not believe that keep it a secret from them is fair as they have a right to know, and secrets have a way of coming out anyway. I would hate for them to find out sometime far down the road and feel that we had lied or misled them. We did share openly with our families, however they were not a party to the donor selection process. We believed that that should be private between DH and me. I didn't need anyone nitpicking our choices. Our families were very supportive and understanding, but even they had a few less than supportive reactions. My father made some statement about how "his line was ending" or some such crap. That stung, but I let it go. Going on 10 years down the line from making these decisions, it really is a non-issue most of the time. My oldest does have a few more questions as he gets more aware of how things work, but it is more curiosity than any negative feelings about donor conception. We just answer truthfully and simply and move on.

I wish you all the best of luck with your journey. I know it is tough, but there is hope and joy possible at the end of the line. Sending you tons of good luck vibes!!! [/quote]

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