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[quote=Anonymous]Could you tell us your work situation since that is a big part of this equation? If you also commute, moving is not practical unless you are also willing to look for a new job. If you don't, moving should at least be on the table. Maybe this isn't the right job, but you need to discuss with your husband what are the threshold issues you would be willing to relocate for, etc. If you have a career, it's even more necessary since you would be giving up opportunities either if you move or if he has a longer commute and you have to pick up the slack.

Growing up, my father had a long commute from our rural town to a suburb of a city an hour and a half away. It did work out fine. He started it when we were already in elementary school so we were getting up really early to get on the school bus. He left the house at 6, but we left at 6:45, so it didn't feel like we were missing out. He had a job that he could leave at 5, so he was home by 6:30. This also didn't feel that late to us (and is much earlier than my DH gets home now with a 15 minute commute).  My dad was really well-read and well informed because he listened to books on tape everyday in the car.

A lot of whether or not this kind of situation works is about the actual schedule of the job, your job, the age of the kids, etc. It's not just the number of miles travelled per day. Not moving was the right choice for my parents, but I don't think my life or my mom's life would have been ruined if we did move. I think it was intended to be a temporary situation for my parents but ended up lasting 18 years because it was manageable for my parents and our family. My dad was also a really responsible guy. I played a lot of high school sports and my dad made it to more games than most parents who worked close by. He was always on the sideline in a suit, but he was always there. [/quote]

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