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[quote=Anonymous]I think OP is very entitled to hurt feelings. Anytime you knock yourself out to be a team player (at work or in any rough family situation), you hope to be appreciated, not disparaged.

That said, once those hurt feels heal a little, I think it's important to have some perspective here. XW may be an unhappy, jealous, and/or insecure person. She is not complaining about _you_ per se, she is complaining because she is hurt her XH is now happy and/or jealous that he is now happy and/or more financially comfortable and/or jealous that you have more time and/or money, etc. You can take--and should--take the higher ground here because of your partner and his children.

I also think that when you can, you might want to do more, but not because of any of the stupid things XW is saying, but because it may help make things smoother in your new blended family. That said, the book STEPMONSTER has some good advice about not becoming a door mat or feeling walked over, which may also be an issue here.

So try to forgive and forget her stupid comments, which are surely going to continue, and focus on what and how you and your partner want your new family to be.[/quote]

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