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This makes me so angry.  OP's daughter just likes reptiles and dinosaurs and comfortable clothes.  [b]That doesn't mean she isn't gender conforming!!!!![/b]
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Actually it's exactly what it means, unfortunately! Society interprets reptiles and dinosaurs and comfortable clothes as "boy".

What it doesn't mean is that she feels that she IS a boy. She might, but it doesn't sound like it from OP's posts. it sounds like she feels that she is a girl who likes "boy" things.[/quote]

One particular society in one particular geographic area at one particular time interprets reptiles and dinosaurs and comfortable clothes as "boy."   I grew up in the 70s, and boys and girls alike wore overalls.  Children's dress was not nearly as heavily gendered.  Toys were not nearly as gendered as they are now.  I had a full set of dinosaur figurines.  I built toy swords in my dad's shop.  Everyone played with Legos.  No one suggested that my preference for pants over dresses and my brother's Tonka trucks and ThunderCats over Barbies and tea sets meant that I was possibly trans.  They called me a tomboy and no one worried.

OP, at this point, it doesn't sound like your daughter is trans, given that she's not expressing a sense that she was born the "wrong" sex or is really a boy.  Children at this age often have a very fluid and performative sense of gender.  She may be trans, or a lesbian, or she may just be a girl who prefers "boy" things or who rejects our culture's view of what "girl" things are.  Frankly, I don't blame her, since I never liked princess crap and the current princess culture/marketing juggernaut drives me bonkers.  [/quote]

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