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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't really do anything about *her* anxiety (and the pps who are like "set some boundaries!" don't get how ridiculous these women are).  BTDT.  My mother once called the police when I was in college because I took a nap in the afternoon and turned off my phone.  [b]But I don't experience any anxiety myself, and you shouldn't either. [/b] It's not a nice way to live, particularly if you don't really have anything major to be anxious about.  You can't freak out every time your kids or DH leave the house.  What if something bad does happen?  That's just life, and there's very little you can do about it.[/quote]

It's not a choice in the strict sense of the word.

PP was right about it not "rubbing off on you" but being a mental illness.

Unfortunately it is highly hereditary and at the same time we learn at our mother's knee how to be anxious.

I am in a similar boat, OP. My mother is super-anxious, high-strung and needy. When I saw these traits developing in myself I started to take action to make sure they would not impair my life and relationships like they did for her.

I am on Lexapro.
 I do CBT with myself (try reading Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman) 
I do yoga and have started to meditate.

I surround myself with positive, uplifting loving people and have cut out the drama queens, BPD and cynics from my life. That was super tough.
I limit my contact with my mother, when I see her I try to make it a group thing so there is a buffer for me. When we speak or I am alone with her I try to keep it positive and light, and steer the conversation as best I can away from these black holes of anxiety of depression. She doesn't like this of course.

GL.

You can stop anxiety from running/ruining your life, but you have to disengage from your mother.

For me the hardest part is seeing some of these traits in my DD and trying to help her cope in positive ways.[/quote]

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