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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't talked w my mom for 6 years.  Sad but you go on.  Her choice to part ways but we always had it bad.  It's just a bad scene with my parents who couldn't get along either.  Therapy did not help me - living my life as best I can helped.  That is, try to love my work.  Try to enjoy my kids and be grateful for my DH.  Try to remember I'm not alone.  Being sad about my cross to beat, being angry that I don't have parents who act like parents, being resigned to the fact that on the family front I lost out.  Be honest to yourself and then you let it go.  If I told you my story you'd never believe it because it look so normal.  Everyone has some story even if it's not to do w parents.  It sucks but one day there may be a resolution.  Until then you have to suck it up.  Most people will not understand and after years of therapy I assure you- continuing to talk about it will not change it.  If you feel certain your mom will not change and if you don't like the relationship, walk away - you can be free of it.  You got zero chance to heal or change otherwise anyway .  Try your best to find others with family oriented issues to not feel too alone.  Know it's not you.  That's really how I cope.  One day maybe I can forgive but I'm not ready yet so I accept that my choice is to distance myself from my mother.  Good luck!  [/quote]

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