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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You've never been on a date with him
You've never been physical with him 
You don't live near him
You don't really actually talk to him

He texts you randomly at night that he loves you and you believe it is meaningful?[/quote]

We've talked on the phone a few times since I left. I did believe it because until a month ago I saw him or spoke to him every day for the past 2 years.[/quote]

OMG OP, you really are delusional. You keep trying to rationalize this. Go back and read what PP wrote. Read it out loud!!! Read it again 5 times out loud. Substitute the word "you" for "I." There's nothing there to analyze or wonder about. [/quote]

I was just explaining why I fell for it. I realized last night when I saw that photo that I'm being stupid. Needed to hear it from others today to have it sink in.[/quote]

And trying to process the hurt.

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It's okay to feel hurt and of course you're confused!  He's giving you mixed signals.  It sounds like he's confused too. Op, stop worrying about how this guy feels about you. My take on the situation is maybe he likes you or maybe he doesn't, but the bottom line is he's afraid of commitment, and probably also afraid of intimacy. Maybe add in some insecurity.

He doesn't tell you about his feelings until you move to another state. He knew you for years before this but doesn't take a step towards a relationship until you're far away. To me this says fear of commitment.

In order to have a successful relationship you have to be ready for it. This guy is not ready. And since at this point anything more with him would be long-distance I say cut your losses and move on. Pining away for this guy when there's no real indication that he cares about you, and even if he did no real opportunity for the relationship to progress tells me that maybe you are afraid of commitment too. People like this usually gravitate towards each other.

Do some hard work and think about why you're so attached to this guy when there are plenty of men available where you live, who will be straightforward about their feelings. It may be that you're not ready for a relationship either. [/quote]

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