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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of kids this age have "boyfriends" or even same-gender "girlfriends (new thing apparently - it means more than friends but is not sexual.  I don't get it).

Anyway, as long as it is just a special-friendship status, and not sexual, I think it's OK.[/quote]

MY DD is also in 6th grade in Bethesda.  She regularly reports who has "asked out who."  She has vocally had a crush on one boy for a couple years and I recently teased her that this will prevent anyone else from asking her out.  I happily only have to worry about this one boy who is clearly more into sports than my DD.

Best I can tell, these 6th grade relationship appear to consist almost entirely of texting one another.  Then they break-up and create a bit more drama at school.  I think the gossip and the drama and the social posturing seem the be the entire point of these relationships.  For example, a mom at another school was just complaining to me that her 6th grade boy asked out one girl, which then resulted in two girls fighting over him. . .   that's par for the course I believe.

On the phone front-- you've really missed the boat here.  My dd has a phone with a wicked contract signed.  Contract makes it clear it's my phone and her use can and will be forbidden for any reason I see fit including (any unkindness in her texts; changing her password to something I don't know; generaly snotty behavior at home; sharing her password with others; anything that suggests she's not trustworth).  I modeled the contract from Rosalind Wiseman's book Mastermind and Wingman.  I have embraced her approach to tweens' technology use.  She suggests you should use these M.S. years to supervise their use of technology so you can teach 
them safe and appropriate habits.  It will be harder to do in H.S. so you need to actively do it NOW.  It's a time-suck.  But important.

I also told her sexting is prohibited in our family, I explained what it was.  She was appropriately horrified--I think its better to get those subjects covered before they are in a situation where it's really relevant.[/quote]

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