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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she engaged in your finances at all? Do you guys do an actual budget?

[b]Is this some sort of "once in a lifetime" trip? [/b] Or is she friends with people who simply have more financial resources than you do?  Did you day anything when she brought it up?  Like "I'm not sure we can afford that"?  Did you discuss the costs, or are you surmising it will be expensive?[/quote]

I agree she should have discussed it rather than announced it. That said, you'll get a lot farther with trying to understand why she wants to do it. Is it for some sort of big event, like a wedding? Maybe she feels a few thousand bucks of debt is worth it for a once-in-a-lifetime type thing. You don't feel that way, but she might. Unless she's terribly selfish or financially irresponsible in general, I can't imagine that she thought that agreeing to this would mean you'd be foregoing your family trip. So, like everyone else says - talk to her. Ask how she thought you could afford it/if it was worth it to go into debt for, to her. And try to get over the idea that she's 'trying to get away from you.' Many, many happy couples travel without their partner from time to time. [/quote]

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