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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok.  Wow.  First, yes, this stinks.  But secondly, you're a little too wrapped up in the drama yourself.

Yes, your MIL is a bitch of the highest order, but like your husband (and likely because of your husband!), you're getting sucked into the "trying to please her" mode.

This should be a "can you believe the shit my MIL pulled this time" kind of reaction, not crying all morning reaction.

This is tough love:  You need to grow a spine.  As a PP said, take the invites, box them up, mail them to her.

And then disengage.  Do not get sucked into the crazy.  Your parents are actually a pretty good model for you.  They think she is ridiculous, don't they?  So work on strengthening your core values - your MIL is ridiculous.  You put up with a certain level of that ridiculousness because she is your child's grandmother and husband's mother.  But don't take it personally.

Feel sorry for her - how crazily insecure she must be.  How horrifically embarrassed she must be by her husband's behavior, losing control of himself in your house.  So she reacts by deflecting attention and making everyone else wrong.  That is her coping mechanism.

Just rise above.  Detach.  Don't get sucked in emotionally.  EVERYONE knows she is ridiculous.  A ridiculous person has no power over you.

Now, as to your husband - sit back and watch this carefully.  I agree, texting you these pictures is incredibly emotionally manipulative.  But that's his coping mechanism with his crazy family.  If he is unable to be a man of his own family (you, your child, and him), and separate himself from his family of origin, then yes, I would say your only hope is counseling.  [/quote]

No do not mail the invitations to her.  Do not bother yourself or go to any more effort.  I would just ignore her.  If anything, throw the invitations away.  If you want to be a real bitch then mail out the invitations.  Ha.  [/quote]

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