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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How else can a young family buy into a nice neighborhood these days?

(We did not get any money from parents, but we are not young, either, about bought 20 years ago when real estate was different. I honestly don't think anyone gets by without gifts from parents now.) [/quote]

We just bought a SFH in Fairfax County without help from our parents.  We paid for our own wedding, too.  When you don't feel entitled to other people's money or a particular lifestyle beyond your means, you make it work.

I think it warps people to live beyond their means when they expect huge gifts from parents.  I would consider a loan for a down payment of I had the means to pay it back to in-laws.  I find it disturbing that OP seems to be completely dismissing her DH's objections.  It's not necessarily about pride.  It's about values.  Or maybe he doesn't have a great relationship with IL's and such a huge gift would create a power imbalance or would make him feel otherwise uncomfortable in his own home.  Those feelings matter.  An objective of independence and self-sufficiency matters.  It matters more than the size of a house.  A lot more, to me.[/quote]

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