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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality check:  A 14 year old who bails on a high school tournament, isn't going to see much playing time the rest of that year, unless he's a super star, which won't set him up with the skills to move up.  For my kid, making it varsity is a huge goal of his high school career.  He's not a star player, so he puts a lot of effort into that goal, and letting his team down on a major tournament would be a huge set back.

I know in this case, I'd let my kid choose, and be very surprised if he chose a wedding over his sport. [/quote]

I have middle schoolers and I still find this kind of sad. I agree that it's hard to let the team down, but why a coach wouldn't help a child to be a true sportsman in all areas of his life is beyond me. And, that he would be punished with less field time for a family wedding. A family outlasts a team.  I would, grudgingly, let my son decide as he's old enough to learn about the effects of his choices. But, I would have him write a note of apology and probably follow up after w a phone call. He needs to explain why this is important in his own words so he decides, putting things in writing is very powerful and helps decision-making. I have sporty boys but I hope they won't do team sports then. Ugh.

I'm sorry your disappointed OP. [/quote]

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