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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Love the unscientific paranoia here. In the old days we just said kids with ADHD were bad. They dropped out of school at higher rates, they developed substance abuse problems at higher rights, they ended up in trouble with the law at higher rates. If you want to label the ability to focus at school and reach your highest potential, and to be happier, as "compliance," I'll take compliance. We resisted medication or my DD for years, so that when we finally put her on meds (not a stimulant, I should add), she was angry that we had kept it from her for so long. This is not a thread about medication, this is a thread about identifying why OP is struggling with her DS. But lets not throw these ridiculous tropes around.

[b] How does this relate to an unmotivated kid who seems to lack motivation, or simply isn't performing well in school. [/b]We're not talking about out-of-control troublemakers of yore who would have benefitted from an ADHD diagnosis, sadly. Too often, the kids I know on ADHD meds are perfectly nice kids who weren't getting what their parents deemed good enough grades. So who's throwing the tropes around? [/quote]

I'm 17:53 from the first page.  Your understanding of ADHD is about the same level mine was when my DS was first diagnosed.  My DS isn't hyperactive, isn't out of control, hasn't ever had behavioral challenges.  He's nice, kind, well liked by peers/teachers and is a pleasure to be around.  But, we saw things that troubled us and we sought more information about it.  We were shocked by the ADHD/inattentive diagnosis because it didn't fit what we thought ADHD was - what you obviously think it is.  But after we learned more about it, he clearly does have it and so does my DH.

Perhaps it's an affluence issue (my kids go to a Title 1 school) but I don't know anyone who medicated their kids because their grades weren't good enough.  Or, maybe that's just what you're told because people recognize you just don't see their kid's struggle and it's just easier to say that.  [/quote]

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