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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. Thank you all for your thoughtful comments. I was so glad to those of you who chimed in about NOT medicating, since I just cannot stomach that at this point. I honestly think that since he spends a majority of his time at school what we need is a smaller classroom setting, in a school where people know him, and he can feel part of something. If he had a difficult time with the academic work, I would think testing for learning disabilities. But that doesn't seem to be his issue. I just want him to be happy, but since he seems SO different from my other kids and SO different from other kids his age we know, I think we just want to make sure we aren't missing something. We DON'T want him to be like everyone else. He does want to do some things, they just usually aren't academic or social in nature. Maybe we just need to help him feel comfortable in the life he's been given. Thank you to all of you for writing in. Each and every one of your posts was thoughtfully written and much appreciated.
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I'll start out by saying that this struck a nerve so I apologize for being bitchy.  Who the fuck is talking about medicating your kid?  The first time medication is even mentioned is in the 10th post by one thinks your DS has had a cushy life and just needs a kick in the pants. Those of us with ADHD kids are recommending an evaluation. You say you want to make sure you aren't missing something?  The only way you know that is if you get him evaluated - and not by a generalist.  They don't have the expertise to it which is why those of us with experience in this area are recommending specialists/neuro-psych.

I also take exception to your comment about being comfortable with the life your DS has been given.  You sound so passive and pathetic.  You can bet that I'm not willing to let my kid live the life he's been given.  I'm helping him craft the life he wants and the life he deserves. He knows he's got challenges other kids don't and he can rise above them.  He's been dealt a shitty hand but that doesn't mean he's stuck with it.

BTW - we don't medicate and have an IEP with organization goals so that the burden isn't on us alone to teach DS what comes naturally to his siblings.  Because he's been evaluated, he knows a lot about why he is the way he is.  He's got no excuses just explanations.  Knowledge is power - at least that's what our family believes.[/quote]

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