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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DO you have a question?  she's insane, but you know that.[/quote]

Has anyone out there dealt with this? How can I put the subject to bed already? I can't even handle her visits anymore.  Even if I say, we're fine, we're confident things are ok, we're not abusive people, we just enjoy a beer here and there, DS is fine, he will have a good childhood, she just goes tsk tsk. We're not going to never drink again in the hope that our kid will never touch alcohol (and FWIW, despite my mother's attitude about alcohol, I drank as much as the rest of them during college). [/quote]

Sounds like you've tried to be polite and end the conversations, but she's not respecting your decision. If I were you, I'd try, "I'm not having this conversation with you, again." And then mean it. Don't engage. It's unfortunate that she's pushing. Although, from her perspective, she's showing concern and not over-stepping.

I have alcoholics in my family. These individuals were self-destructive and abusive to family members, so I understand your mother's sensitivity. Growing up, I often became anxiety-ridden whenever I saw my father start drinking, because it never ended well. I also witnessed lets-party-and-get-wasted behavior. As an adult, I drink in front of my 5yo. Most often, my husband and I drink wine or beer during dinner. Neither of us our alcohol dependent, nor do we over-indulge, get drunk, drive, fight, neglect our child, or make a big deal out of consuming alcohol. We don't make comments like, "I really need a drink tonight." We're fine with demonstrating responsible, moderate alcohol consumption. We've already started discussions with her about substance abuse and responsibility. I'd rather have her exposed to responsible consumption at this stage in her life than the inevitable irresponsible behavior that she'll encounter in high school or even younger. Hopefully, she'll have common sense and a point of reference. [/quote]

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