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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apparently reading comprehension is an issue. I said I will NOT ask.

I do think that it is weird, though.  And i don't care if it isn't my business.  I am allowed to think it is weird.  I am also allowed start assuming they aren't having kids.  Everyone else assumes they are and wants me to save crap for them and i have been.  Done.  You are all right. It is none of my business so I won't save stuff.

I totally get it and apparently some of you are SUPER bothered by me asking the question.  But, notwithstanding PPs comments, it is an elephant in the room if NO ONE is allowed to ask about it. That is actually exactly what an elephant in the room is.  Something that everyone knows is there but no one will discuss.  They have been together a decade, they have been married over 4, they are apparently healthy, have good jobs.  She is 35! What is next?  Since they said they want kids, isn't that next?  Right????  So the fact that no one asks is because it is an elephant in the room--and it is awkward!!  And the way she snuggles up on the latest baby makes it seem even more appropriate to ask. But no on does.  Elephant is NOT in my head! [/quote]

Again you are assuming having children = fulfilment.

DH and I have been together over 10 years. I'm 39 this year. We both have good jobs. We are settled, healthy, and happy.

There will be no children.

But you know what I tell nosy, rude, cruel, prying people who judge me by the fact that I have not borne children? I give them the someday shit because it gets them off my back and out of my uterus. Because it is easier to say someday vs. getting into the very personal decisions and conditions that revolve around childbearing.

So whatever will they do?

Perhaps they will have children. 
Perhaps they will travel. 
Perhaps they will maintain the status quo.
Perhaps they will sell all their posessions and move to a remote city in Equador. 
Perhaps they will buy motorcycles and travel to Alaska. 
Perhaps they will buy a dog.

But no matter what, it is none of your business judging them by the ruler by which you measure your own life and worth.

And if you were to throw your elephant in my lap, I can guarantee it would not be there long. [/quote]

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